February 2016 was a momentous time in my life. My husband and I welcomed our little boy into the world. Our little one came to us one Saturday night after a long labour at home. The waiting game was finally over. At last, a healthy and heavy baby came our way.
My journey into motherhood was something I had been looking forward to for so long. I've always felt like a childless mother. I had been caring for other people's children. I have spent time as a doula helping parents ease their transition into parenting. Helping clients welcome little ones into their families is exciting work, and I was ready for my turn. Each week I watched as my belly grew - and moved, enjoying every moment. (That is every moment not spent in the bathroom or lying awake in the middle of the night.)
Becoming a mother has made me proud and thankful.
I am proud
1. I educated myself and those supporting me so that I would feel prepared for the birth. This meant even though I am a doula, I sought help in others - experts in their field - to become an informed mother.
2. I made decisions with my partner calmly and with all of the information. These are the first decisions we would make as parents and felt the importance of making them together.
3. I was flexible with my "birth plan." Being flexible allowed me to remain calm and focused through these changes in the “plan."
4. I listened to my body. I let the contractions flow through me, often shaking my head as they pushed downward. The times that I was not focused and listening were the times I felt the pain, and felt a quick feeling of panic - that is until I would say out loud, “relax” and “breathe.” Saying these words made my breathing slow and allowed me to come back to myself.
I am thankful.
1. For a healthy baby. A big healthy baby.
2. For a healthy and speedy recovery. Not just physically either. I took time to rest. I took time to get to know my baby before visitors entered the scene. The proper preparation and supplies on hand meant I didn’t need to worry about anything other than growing as a family.
3. For a supportive partner. He stayed with me through the contractions, made a wonderful spaghetti supper during, and looked me in the eyes and told me I was doing “so well” again and again. He remains at my side daily, offering all of his love and attention to our little family.
4. For a wonderfully caring and attentive midwifery practice, especially the calm women who cared for my family. Seventh Generation Midwives of Toronto, I cannot thank you enough.